Living in the moment and freeing yourself from the past is a lot easier said than done. Once you realize the past and the future don’t exist, you can fully “be” in the present moment.
A while ago I had to turn away a client who needed more support than I could provide. Unfortunately, the client took it very personally and lashed out at me. She called me horrible names and said I was “privileged” and “spoiled”. It was awful. The experience brought me back to when I was bullied as a kid. I remember being ostracized at school and being called “rich bitch” and many other names I try to forget about.
When I went away to a treatment facility for my depression, I remember not wanting to talk during group therapy. I thought my problems weren’t “real” or big enough. I was conditioned to believe my life was “easy” and I had no reason to be depressed. People were always saying, “How could you be depressed?!”
What I learned in the healing process is that how we define an “easy” life is all relative. The grass isn’t always greener. I remember I was envious of my friends who had jobs after school. They were envious of me for being a star athlete. Being raised in a privileged home doesn’t guarantee an easy life. And being raised in a home where money was tight does not mean it sucked. Each experience brings different kinds of easy and hard. It is all relative to the individual.
The important thing to realize is that whether you had an easy route or not, you don’t have to pay for it now. That route brought you here to this present moment. And this present moment is all you have and all you are guaranteed. Sometimes it is necessary to go back and examine our past so we can understand why we are the way we are. It helps us understand our behaviors so we can release the past and live in the present. Today, choose to be free. Free from the past and the route you took to get here. The only path that matters is the one you start paving today.
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